In new moms, childfree on August 23, 2015 at 6:59 am
I just came across this old post on a
friend’s girl i used to know’s facebook page. she argued that the article, being a mom has made me a bad friend was basically rubbish and everyone who agreed with it could “F off”… oh, and to all her besties who gave stuck it out with her, she’s got their back.
here’s the rub. moms like that say they’re the same, and that they’d do anything for their friends at the drop of a hat. translation: you must make yourself available within a 45 minute window in the mid-morning. don’t expect phone calls. and if you phone her, don’t expect her to remember anything about a single thing that’s going on in your life. even major life events or milestones. and forget about calling in the middle of the night for help solving a problem; the phone is turned off promptly half an hour before bedtime. and if, by some great miracle, she does manage to find a way to “have your back” you’d better understand that it comes at the tremendous cost of the expectation that you will babysit at the most inconvenient time for you, repeatedly, until she feels the debt has been repaid.
this is why my friend circle is currently in flux. friends with kids: it was a good run while we were young and you were fun. but now I need to find someone my age who still knows how to be a good friend. because friendship can’t be one-sided.
In about me, childfree, lessons learned on November 9, 2013 at 5:03 am
this past week was a doozy. a second friend announced her pregnancy, while another yet had an actual baby.
i need to step up my friend-finding mission.
have any of you had success with local childfree meetups or anything like it? i need to know. pros and cons.
In childfree on October 8, 2013 at 4:27 am
ok, it’s honesty hour up in here.
so do you judge women who have several (more than 2 or 3) kids? because i kind of do.
i don’t know why… maybe it’s because of articles like this that hint that only less educated women are having larger families these days. or maybe it’s because for whatever reason, i kind of feel like they must have nothing else going on for them so they might as well keep busy somehow…
why bring this up, you ask? well, because i hate being judged for not having kids. and so i don’t want to be just as bad for judging those who have an excess of them.
In babies in adult places, childfree, manners, new moms on June 28, 2011 at 3:12 pm
in case you haven’t seen the headlines today, check out this beauty.
*warning – content is disturbing and involves the human equivalent of the photo below. please don’t click on the link while you’re eating dinner, or drinking a milkshake. don’t say i didn’t warn you.
there are a number of points this article brings up (primarily, the insanity of new mothers) but most pressing are the questions that i don’t even know if i want the answers to. but now i can’t get them out of my head.
some of my question include: does it just squirt out on its own? or is it like the teat above and need a little coaxing? and how far does is squirt? is it a limitless supply or is it more like a super soaker and need some refill time in between attacks?
i’m afraid to google for the answers lest i come across images that i’ll never be able to unsee.